My Top 20 Best Moments of 2010!!

Wow the year is almost over already! Time does fly when you're having fun. It was a good year. I had some moments that stalled, but didn't stop me. There were no pity parties allowed in my 2010, and I'm proud I didn't let those bad days turn into bad weeks/months.

I was going to do a list of my good and bad moments of the year, but decided to focus on the moments that made me smile, the moments that added to my life and the moments that I will treasure forever. Who cares what went wrong or what didn't happen the way I hoped? That was my plan. God had different things in store for me, and I choose to take time out right now to appreciate my gifts.

My Top 20 BEST Moments of 2010

1. Starting my blog. I'm a very private person and was scared to open up. However, I love to write and found that I had a voice for single people that needed to be heard. Now, you just can't shut me up!! L
2. The JayZ concert. HOVA! HOVA! The best concert of 2010 hands down! He's a great performer and makes the crowd feel like we received a special VIP invitation to party with him. Had a great time with my homegirl Steflova!
3. My sister's engagement. From the moment her and Will met, it was inevitable that they would be husband and wife. I'm excited and privileged to be a part of their wedding day in 2011. Bring it!
4. Saying goodbye to Brian. Woo woo woo. Never thought this day would come. It was a friendship that developed into something more than NOTHING. Ending the friendship was one of the best days of my life. It was freeing. Funny thing is that this week he's been calling and I keep ignoring his call. He must have a feeling that he's about to miss his ride into my 2011. BON VOYAGE my love...
5. Realizing who my "real" friends are. Nuff said!
6. Black Friday Tomfoolery! Once again we braved the cold to get a laptop and printer. Every year we say we are not going to ever do it again, but....Will we be in a line of cold fools November 27, 2011? Stay tuned...
7. My new printer and laptop. It was worth the wait :-)
8. Front row with Trey Baby. So close I could touch him. I started in the 2nd row, but jumped into the 1st when the lights went out. The concert was blah, but seeing my celeb crush that close was priceless.
9. My GNO's with Natalie. This year I have spent more qualitytime with my cousin. During our Girl's Night Outs, we have shared laughs and stories of pain. It helps to have someone in your life that you can be openly real with. I have enjoyed our talks and look forward to more in the new year.
10. Dancing!!! Drop it low, drop it low. It's my all-time favorite thing to do and no matter how I am feeling, when a song comes on I choose to dance. I predict that in 2011 I will dance more than I have in previous years, esp on July 23, 2011 (big grin).
11. Bianka turning 21! It's been a long hard road, but my baby is not a baby anymore. Its been 14 years since she came into my life, and I cherish every moment. Love her beyond words.
12. My new haircut. I took risks in 2010 and tried new things. Forget ordinary, I'm extraordinary! Loved my new do even before the compliments. I wonder what hairstyle I will have in 2011??? Maybe a new color?? We shall see.
13. My Birthday. Always my favorite time of the year. Again, I had a ball and felt the love. The good thing is that you get another year to do it all over again...the countdown begins--4 months until my birthday!
14. Finding out that Brandon and Jamal are JERKS!! God opened my eyes this year and cleared space that was being taken up by people who did not deserve my time. I thought that these 2 dummies were friends, but they lied to me. Lies to me to are the 8th deadly sin. Disgusting!! Wish them both well, but they too don't get to ride the Sweet P train into 2011.
15. I bowled a 127!! Who knew?? Usually I only bowl once year for my birthday. One day I met up with my girl Chelle and got some pointers that helped me keep my ball out of the gutter. I even got a strike! I plan to bowl more in 2011. It's so much fun. Maybe I will join a league. LOL!
16. My 1 date. Yes, it didn't amount to anything, but I got out and had a little fun with someone new. I predict that I will have more dates in 2011. Shoot I better!!!!
17. Run Tell That winning the Championship!! It was a great basketball season for my team. Being the "manager" was fun and I enjoyed doing the recaps. I promise to be more consistent with them next time :-/ I look forward to the spring season.
18. Meeting Karlton. Aww! He opened me up to so much this year. I tried new things and had fun. He was a seasonal fling, but I learned the lessons that I needed and have no regrets. He so boosted my confidence in so many ways. He will be missed fondly, but the good thing is even thinking about him now...I smile.
19. My "modification." An unexpected blessing right before the new year. To God be all the Glory!!
20. Finally seeing the beauty in me. Loving the me that HE made me to be. I'm content. I'm happy. I'm ready for everything that 2011 has in store for my life and plan to enjoy the ride (even if it gets bumpy).

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Thank you for your support and taking the time to read my blog. I can't wait to see what 2011 has to offer. My guess is that it will be AMAZING....on purpose!

*Sweet P*

R.I.P. Lady T

Teena "Lady T" Marie

March 5, 1956 - December 26, 2010

This is one of my favorites....

Yesterday we lost a precious songbird: Teena Marie. She has been a major part of my good days when I rock out to songs like "Square Biz"; my bad days by lifting my mood with songs like "Irons in the Fire;" and sad days when I cry over past loves to songs like "Casanova Brown." I'm devastated to hear of her death.

The Lovergirl will be missed dearly. She had a spirit that made you smile at the sound of her voice. I pray now for her family and friends that every day brings them closer to peace and understanding. Shocking and sad, but her legacy of love that she left us all will live forever.

Tell someone you love them today, for tomorrow is definitely not promised...

*Sweet P*

Having a Cute Day...

I know you call me beautiful, but I don't always believe it.

I know you find me sexxxy, but I don't always feel it.

You say I'm a pretty young thang, but some days I think I'm just aiiight.

Yes I have that walk and talk and swing of the head that makes people THINK I know I got it goin' on....

But don't be fooled! Most days it's just a mirage.

This black swan was once an ugly duckling.

Back in the day, beauty didn't come in this complexion and have this texture hair.

I was the good friend. The on the shelf girl. The ride or die chick,

But never your most prized jewel.

When I was younger, only my mother called me beautiful,

And I figured she was biased since I looked just like her.

Know that your compliments are treasured gold nuggets that I keep in my pockets.

(They are spilling over by the way).

Over the years, I learned to smile and say thank you rather than question your motives.

Not too long ago, the scars of the past finally healed.

And today...TODAY, I think I see what you see.

*Sweet P*

I'm Dating Loneliness during the Holidays

I'm reading "Eat Pray Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert. She is a great author. There are some history lessons that I can do without, but she has left me with little chunks of life lessons that I'm using to take Phyllis to the next level. She forces you to look at the you in the mirror that you pretend is not looking back at you. I don't think it's by accident that I started reading this during the holiday season. God has a way of ordering my steps so that I'm standing upright and walking straight into my blessing.

The holidays can be lonely and sad at times. Yes, I can admit that I have my moments of "Bah Humbug!" The Lexus commercials where the husband shows the wife the car with the big red bow. All the jewelry commercials and the babies with their holiday cheer. It can beat a single person over the head. I've had a few melancholy days lately. I refuse to wallow in it though, so I give myself a pep talk and go deep in prayer mode. Honestly, from November-January God and I have the longest, most frequent conversations than any other months throughout the year.

Okay so here is where I begin being real with me....In the past years, my loneliness has caused me to talk to folks that I don't really like or hang out with people that I know are not good for me. This is how the unhealthy friendship that I let go of recently lasted over 10 years. Each year I would be so done with him, but the holidays come around and....yada yada yada.Yes, I have my family and friends, but there is something about having someone to hold, even if they are not yours to keep. I can see how people fall off the wagon during the holidays. You try to fill the empty space with something warm.

This is the first time I'm going into the holiday completely solo. I plan to ride the loneliness out. Rather than deny its existence, I'm learning to deal with it and find ways to cope that don't involve other people. I will embrace the activities that make me happy, like reading and writing, dancing to music videos in my living room, cooking all my favorite foods and baking sweet treats, laughing with my family and friends, cleaning (yes this brings me such joy), watching movies...the list goes on and on.

I would rather hug loneliness than kiss regret. Like Elizabeth says in her book, 

"When I get lonely these days, I think: "So be lonely, Liz. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person's body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings."

Me and loneliness have a date this weekend and I'm making heart shaped sugar cookies. Yummy!

*Sweet P*

Cheers to you!!

Watching the Heat/Cavs game and the fans are boo-ing Lebron. Why??? What did he do? He thought of himself first and turned his back on his team. Isn't this what many people do everyday? Why are they giving him so much energy? This is exactly what he wants.

I see the bigger picture...If you really want to make the enemy shake, ignore him. Don't even look his way. What they need to do is cheer for him when he comes out. He would not know what to do about that. That would mess his game all up. Yay Lebron!!! We love you!!! He would be like WTH!!!

Don't ever let the enemy know they have gotten to you. Then they win. The whole stadium is up on their feet right now waving their towels....its sad because its been almost a year and they are holding a grudge over someone they have never met in person. Someone whose existence does not determine whether or not they will wake up to see another day.

Okay typing that just moved soemthing in my spirit....

Its Thursday and I've had a rough week at work dealing with someone that I can't stand to be in the same room with. It just occurred to me that she's my Lebron and I'm like these fans. The whole week is gone and I gave her everything I had this week and none of it was worth it. I'm sure she went home and rested easy while I went to bed with a headache. Hmph! Isn't God amazing....how He can show you how stupid you are through people and things around you.

I honestly didn't even see it until I started typing this...lesson learned. Tomorrow I'll high five her when she comes in the door and wave my sign that says, "Way to go!!" I'm gonna force her to foul out of the game, and I'm going home with the win.

GAME OVER!!

*Sweet P*