R.I.P. Aaliyah...10 years and it feels like yesterday...

I will never forget the day that Aaliyah died. Hit us all hard because it came out of no where. Didn't know her personally, but knew her beautiful spirit. She was one of a kind and her style and music has NEVER been duplicated. This is also the 14 year anniversary of my Aunty Frances (mom's sister). So many angels smiling today...may their souls rest in eternal peace.

One of my favorite Aaliyah songs, "It's Whatever." R.I.P Baby Girl

Bet it sucks to be you right now...

Now this has been my song for some time, but today I ran into Ike AGAIN!! I looked him dead in his eye and kept on moving. I heard the little man say, "I know you're not gonna just walk by me." I smiled as I did just that...walked by singing, "I bet it sucks to be you right now" in my head. There was no love loss here, but he did show his ass and I did see the real him, so yeah...He turned out to be the best thing I never had and I'm gon' always be the best thing he never had. BOOM!! hahaha

And I sing this to all of the others who missed on this here hot fudge sundae....

Thank God you blew it

Thank God I dodged a bullet

I'm so over you 

So baby good lookin out

Oh and....

I know you want me back

It's time you face the facts

That I'm the one who got away

Lord knows that it would take another place, another time, another world, another life

Thank God I found the good in goodbye

Bet it sucks to be you right now!!!!

*Sweet P*

But yesterday was different..

So yesterday I experienced my first earthquake. It was the freakiest thing to have the floor move under your feet and watch the building move. I didn't have too much damage to my home. Just some broken pictures and glass and objects all over the floor. Nothing that can't be easily fixed or repaired. I was more shaken up than anything. One thing that did occur to me is that in times of turmoil, you always know how important you are to some folks. I always sit back when there is a snowstorm or some major event and see who calls to check in on me. Whose mind do I happen to cross....Who cares whether or not I'm okay....Who wants to extend a helping hand...Usually, I'm that person for everyone else, but rarely am I on the receiving end. Usually its okay. I brush it off because there is a higher power who ALWAYS has His hands on me.

But yesterday was different...

I was already sad about the day. It was the day I lost him. The absolute saddest day of my life. The only topic that I can't really speak on because nothing but sorrow comes from it. Every year I just press through it and before you know it the sadness settles and the smile returns. Peace is restored and I move on. But like I said, yesterday was different...

Because I was already tender...when I reached out to everyone I knew to make sure they were all okay, I was depleted. The little strength I had, I gave to everyone else, so when those very few individuals that I hoped to hear from didn't even call...it kinda hurt more that it should have. I should be used to it by now huh? Naw, I'm human so some things penetrate passed my Superwoman exterior like kryptonite.

I do appreciate when people show me who they really are though. It helps me treasure those gold nugget friends that I do have and shows me who my gold-plated friends really are.

Very interesting....

*Sweet P*

It takes a special guy to date Sweet P

I reconnected with an old friend recently. Always good to have a friend of the opposite sex to help keep you grounded and give you advice about life. We got to talking about my love life. Not sure how this topic always comes up in my conversations. Everyone wants to know why I'm still single and who I'm dating....anyway, like I told him, I'm still kissing frogs and hoping that one turns into a prince. LOL! Told him about the only 2 guys I've dated this year, one of those being Mr. Ike Turner. He then gave me some advice for any man who comes into my life...

1. He should be very patient in getting to know me. He needs to understand where I am coming from and not take things personally. I can be blunt and if he's not strong, I will break him down. I burst out laughing after he said that because it is sooooo true. My humor is kinda cut-throat and I can be too much for some people.
2. He should be confident. For the reasons in #1, he needs to be sure about himself and have some backbone. I'm not a needy woman and my strength could be intimidating for some men. I do however understand the man's role in my life and know how to shut up and submit...when its called for ;-) 
3. He needs to be handy. This got another gut busting laugh from me. Again, true!! He said, and I quote, "He doesn't have to be Bookman, but there will be some small jobs that he will need to take care of." Funny! The good thing is that I like to learn to do things for myself. If it's a task I can't do, I want to watch and learn how to do it for next time.

My bmf says that if any man in my life can handle these things, then he will be the luckiest man in the DMV. He said once the lucky man is in, its a beautiful thing. So sweet...I know that it takes a special man to be with me. I won't settle for anything less. And no woman of worth should...

*Sweet P*

Just one of those days...

Every single person I have come in physical contact with today has plucked my damn nerves. I don't know if it's me or if everyone thought it was "Mess with P Day." UGH!! On metro, passengers were extra funky and nasty. One stepped on my foot and looked at me like I slapped them. Folks at work kept giving me reasons to cut them and my mother thought today was the perfect day to bug me about uploading the pictures I have from my sister's wedding. On top of everything, this crappy blackberry I'm typing this on is freezing up!!!! Grrrrr!!!

I just can't wait to get home a prepare my steaks that I've had marinading overnight. That will be the best part of my day fo sho!! Well that and the hurting I plan to put on Maxwell tonight. I'm surely in a mood and need a sign on my forehead that says "Beware. I bite...HARD!!" Heck I'm actually getting on my own nerves right now listening to myself gripe on about absolutely nothing.

AND JUST WHEN I THOUGHT IT CAN'T GET ANY WORSE....I miss my metro stop. Ain't this a BLEEP....

Wooooosaaaaaahhhhh! Getting it all out actually makes me feel a little better, but just a little.

It's just one of those days and Sweet P will return tomorrow. I hope....

*Stinky P* LMAO!

Black men survive longer in prison than out: study: MedlinePlus

Article: Black men survive longer in prison than out: study: MedlinePlus

Very interesting article. Why is it that people who have broken the law are entitled to better care than those of us that live law-abiding lives? It's disheartening that a Black man who works 2 jobs, still cannot afford the health care to prevent future illness for him and his family, but a Black man who kills someone can go to prison and have free meds and doctor visits. Very sad. There are even cases now where people are committing crimes because they cannot afford the medications for their debilitating illnesses, just so that they can go to prison and have free care. SMH

I'm aware that a lot of this simply has to do with education. Black men don't always see their health as a priority. They are busy trying to take care of everything and everyone else. I know many men who don't go to the doctor regularly for checkups, go to the dentist, or get the annual exams for their age range and it has nothing to do with whether or not they can afford to do so. They just need a push...or a punch LOL!

So ladies, please make sure the men in your lives take care of their health. Don't nag them like you do with the dishes or the trash, but let him know how much you love him and that sexxy body of his. You want to grow old with him and live long enough to see your great-great grandkids. If he refuses to listen, just make sure you have a nice insurance plan out on him (sick joke, but you know me LOL).

Sickens me that this article says prison is a better place for my men...Something's gotta give!!!

*Sweet P*