Trey Baby is all grown up!

Okay its time that I make another confession...I'm just letting it all out these days huh? I am in love with Trey Songz. yes, in love. We have been in a relationship for a while now and its time that I stop hiding how I feel about him. Over the years, he has evolved into a beautiful, soulful man. Yes, his lyrics are a tad bit on the sexual side, but there is some sweetness in there. OMG!!! Just the thought of this man....

Anyway, this is his latest video with some other chick. Blah! My baby has come a long way from "Last Time." Did you see him get all emotional at the end??? Love, love, love, love, love, lust, lust, love, love, love this man!!!!

One day we will have to break up because our love is a kind of love that never dies, but transforms into....okay I'm done! But seriously, I need to get him out of my system and free myself up for another man soon. Right now i don't have much going on, so Trey Baby reigns in my heart. Love, love, love, love, love, lust, lust, love, love, love this man!!!!

Enjoy the video! Every time I watch it I cry...I have watched it over 20 times now...a shame!
 
*Sweet P*

PSA: The Funky Madness Needs to Stop TODAY!!

Ladies and gentleman...it is too early in the morning to be funky!!! My goodness! I just saw a woman who was dressed to kill and gorgeous (yes, it is okay to recognize another sista doing her thang!), but when she passed by me the smell made my nose burn. The day has barely begun! How can this be???

I decided to do my part and tell the world that this funky madness needs to stop TODAY!! I don't care how good you look, if you smell bad--it's a deal-breaker. That goes for breath, body odor, hair....EVERYTHING!!! The days are getting longer and the weather warmer. Today we will reach 90 degrees, and that woman I saw today will not make it to the end without offending someone. YUCK!!

So here are some hygiene tips that I found on life123.com:

• Shower Daily: Whether you feel grungy or not, a daily shower is a must. Shower every morning and after all athletic activities. You may not be able to smell your body odor, but others will.

**Shower means washcloth and soap. Not a loofa(sp) and just rubbing the bar across your body. Make sure you pay special attention to those hotspots such as the armpits and private parts.

• Limit Fragrances: If you use scented soap or shampoos, go easy on competing fragrances. Coordinate your fragrance choices in such a way that you only apply one scent or two complementary scents at a time. Be aware of the fact that many people are sensitive to fragrances; a strong fragrance may offend, not attract some people. Think through your life circumstances. Will you be in any confined spaces such as cabs, elevators or shared cars with other people? If so, lighten up on the fragrance.

**You cannot cover up your funk with smell goods. This will create a counter affect and a small dark cloud around your body.

• Wear Clean Clothes: Make sure you wash all clothes after a couple times of wearing them, after one wearing if you got sweaty at all that day. Hang clothing immediately after removing from the dryer; iron any clothing that needs attention. Use a tape roll to remove pet hair or lint.

**Do I really need to say anything?? Yes! Some people think that taking clothes from the floor or hamper are okay. It’s not! When the heat hits the old funk you get…NEW FUNK!

• Brush Your Teeth Three Times a Day: Brush your teeth three times a day for dental health and for fresh breath. Be sure to floss daily and to brush your tongue, which can harbor bad-breath-producing bacteria. Carry mints for in between situations. If you have recently drank coffee or eaten anything potentially offensive-think onion, garlic, blue cheese or strongly spiced foods-be sure to brush or use mints before talking to people.

**I am going to take it one step further…make regular dental appointments. Some of you can’t get your breath right because you have a dead tooth. Not a good look…call your dentist TODAY!

• Keep Nails Trimmed and Clean: Wash hands thoroughly, removing dirt from underneath nails daily. Keep nails neatly trimmed and free from all debris.

**Men, this is not a practice just for us women. You need to get under those nails and it will not emasculate you to use a nail file or clippers for fingernails AND toenails. You like to see our nails in order and we would love the same from you. Thanks!

• Pluck Stray Hairs: Both men and women need to be on the lookout for stray hairs in places hairs don't belong: the nose, ears, brow, chin and upper lip area. As men get older they need to pluck or clip wiry nose, ear and eyebrow hairs; women need to wax upper lips and pluck stray hairs if hair becomes long or unsightly. Not sure if you need to pluck or not? Err on the side of caution and pluck.

**Now this I know I need to do better on…read my blog, "Always be Ready!"

• Prevent Foot Odor: Dust shoes with baby powder, change socks often-especially after athletic activities-and allow shoes to air out in between wearing.

**Wash under your feet. I know some people who figured they got clean by themselves and they always had the worst smelling shoes!

If you find that people are holding their breath when you enter an elevator or that flies seem to circle your head daily, this blog is for you.

Remember to keep it sexy people!

*Sweet P*

I want a man who will take a bullet for me!

**SPOILER ALERT: If you have not seen "Grey's Anatomy" from 5/20/10, this blog contains details of the show that may ruin it for you.

"Grey's Anatomy" last night was mind-blowing! That was THE BEST season finale ever, and I was an emotional wretch during the whole 2 hours of the show and 1 hour afterwards. I not only woke up with puffy eyes and a full heart, but also a renewed direction.

The show had great action and had me on the edge of my seat with my heart racing, but it was the end that shook me up. Meredith Grey and I have been one and the same for so long. Her childhood and relationship with her parents created this huge wall around her. No need to go back and retell her story because, like me, she has learned to forgive her loved ones and herself and moved on to live the best life she could. In her journey, she met McDreamy (who I love dearly). Through their ups and downs they finally got married...on a post it--still think that was the cutest thing ever, but can we please make sure this marriage is legal? LOL!

This season, Meredith has opened up more than ever. I've seen her smile more in these past few months than all the other previous seasons. When she found out she was pregnant, she was sooo happy and excited. The old Meridith would have freaked out at the thought of being someone's mother. She was afraid to love and be loved by anyone. Her relationship with MrDreamy is beautiful. Now she is communicating her feelings and not holding back her love for him. This man has been beaten down by her because of her wall and he weathered the storm. Love him for that! For sticking it out no matter what she said or did. For loving her, when she could not love herself or show him how strongly she felt for him. He never gave up. There was a line in the show where she said, "It took me a long time to find him. A long time. And even then, it took me a long time to even know that I wanted him." I know exactly what she means. OMG! I'm STILL crying. UGH!!

So last night, when he got shot and was on the operating table hanging on by a thread and the shooter was going to finish the job, she stood in front of the gun and said, "Shoot me! Tell Derrick I love him and I'm sorry." This is Meredith Grey. The woman who at one time could not say the words, "I love you." She was now prepared to die for this man who brought her the joy/love that she deserved, and I know that he would do the same for her in return. Yes, these are fictional characters, but it just made me think that I have yet to experience anything that deep. I don't want just any man. I want a man who will stand in front of the barrel of a gun and take a bullet for me. And I mean this literally. A man that I would not hesitate to do the same for.

That should be in your vows along with love, honor, and obey...Will you take a bullet for this man or woman??? Now that's real love...

Is it too much to get popcorn???

Okay, here is Part 2 from my date from Tuesday...

So we get to the theater and I notice that he uses 2 free passes to "pay" for the movie. Not a big deal. I'm resourceful as well and all for a free hook-up where I can get it. Unfortunately, he did not have free passes for the concession stand because we walked right passed it. Okay, it was an early movie and we both had long days at work and clearly did not have time for dinner before the date, so why not ask, "Would you like something?" I mean the movie was free, so why not put the money you saved on the tickets towards some nachos? I was going to buy my own snacks, but decided not to. Too many times I just say whatever and do something myself. This was a date and it was "his place" to treat me. Again, everything else was fine, but this turned me off. I gave him the benefit of the doubt though and figured we would get dinner after the movie....

NOT!!!!

This fool peaces me out at the car and says that he had a great time and hopes that we could do it again. Do what? We could have done all that in my living room. Now am I wrong for expecting more? The sad part is that in the past this would not have annoyed me. I would have gotten my own snacks, maybe even got him some, just because I can. Then say "Hey, let's get dinner." Maybe even pay my own way. I just woke up from that crazy dream. All these things I can do by my damn self and I'm tired of going it alone. I'm not saying that a man has to pay for everything, but this was a first date. You should have put your best effort forward. Is this your best? Is this what I should expect on date #2? Should I come prepared to pay my way?

NO!!!!

Sorry the days of me pulling out my wallet to be polite and you proceeding to tell me my portion of the bill is OVER!!! Now, when the bill comes, I just look at him and give him my "You got that, right?" smile. Like I said in my last post....tired of being the man in my life. Need a real one to step up and take the position. It's a new day and Sweet P wants popcorn, nachos, maybe a hot dog and a soda...and I don't think I should have to ask for it.

Can you handle that? Thanks!

Nice to feel like a woman for a change ;)

So I was able to pull a Superwoman makeover yesterday and go on the first "date" I've been on in a LONG time. Yes, I've had friends stop by, pass through, come over, chill out, swing by, but usually those interactions are a figment of my imagination and this was a real-life event--an actual D-A-T-E! It was just nice to not only be asked out on a date, but to have everything planned out for me by someone else who was seeing to MY NEEDS...whew! Need to do a dance off that one.

So the date....

We had a good time. We went to see Iron Man 2, but I never saw the first one. He gave me a quick recap and was not bothered by my questions during the movie. Oh and he was such a gentleman. When I walked ahead to open the door, he stopped me so he could get it. He led me by the small of my back into the theater and let me go first up the stairs. He picked the row, but let me sit down first and helped me take off my coat. Even now as I recall this, I smile. Yes, its a small gesture, but its those practices that mean so much. During the date, he did not act out of order. He got close, but not too close. No groping, no kissing, no grabbing. The perfect gentleman.

I had a nice time. I must say that it was a pleasure to feel like a woman for a change. I'm reminded of the Erykah song, "Kiss Me on My Neck" where she says "been such a long time I forgot I was fine." Day in and out I play the male and female role in my life. At work I spend my day planning this, organizing that, and heading up everything. Then I go home where I cook, clean, pay ALL the bills, and deal with the crap that comes up like a leaky faucet, car repairs, etc. It gets tiring and sometimes you wish you had someone to split the load with or at least go to for assistance. So with all that, sometimes you forget to be soft and sweet; how I'm meant to be, but sometimes forget to take off my armor. I want to be nurtured and protected more often. *sigh*

Now will there be a Date #2, I don't know, but I do know that once you are treated a certain way, you are not able to settle for anything less. So nice to get out of the house and be in the company of a nice smelling man, but there is something that he did do that turned me off a bit....STAY TUNED for the next blog to find out what it was...

Until then...

*Sweet P*

Always be READY!!!

So I have a date today. This is a rare occasion. An actual date. Going out to a movie. Out of the house. Not just someone passing by to say hello or "get a hug." A real date. It's been so long that I have not done ANY preparation for it. I planned to go home and get myself together (i.e. fix hair, shave my mustache--oh the joys of a hairy woman, put on some smell good, etc.), but now he wants to pick me up from work. I told him I was tired and wanted to do an early movie, but I would not get home until 6 due to my commute. His solution: "I'll just pick you up from work and we can go to a movie close by. Then I'll take you to your car at the metro." Wow, how nice and thoughtful. I was so amazed at his generosity, I immediately said YES!!!

Problem....

Just realized, I didn't SHAVE MY MUSTACHE!!!!!!!!! Not only that, its raining today and I have on my "It's nasty outside and I'm tired and I don't feel like going to work or any place else and I wish I could stay in bed all day and eat ice cream" outfit. A mess!!! It's times like this I am reminded that a single woman must always be on and ready for anything.

Anyway, dates are few and far between. I will not cancel....off to CVS for an emergency date kit that I will keep in my desk for next time.

Lesson Learned #65...thanks Steflova!

I'm Gonna be Ready...

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this song!

Remembering Lena Horne

(June 30, 1917 – May 9, 2010)

I try not to watch movie trailers these days because they take away the element of surprise for me. This morning while I was getting ready for work, the "Robin Hood" commercial came on and before I could press mute I heard, "Are you ready to be who you are?" and it stopped me. I thought, today I feel so much closer to being that person I am called to be and wondered what took me to long to get here. I have allowed my worst enemy to keep me from living a fulfilled life for way too long. I have given too much power to that evil force and have been robbed of a wealth of treasures that have been laid out for me to have as I please. FEAR...fear is what has held me back from being ME.

So today, I honor a woman who looked fear in the face and laughed. A woman who at a time when Black was not considered beautiful, made ALL men and women swoon. A woman who defied all odds to do whatever she wanted, say whatever she wanted, and be whatever she wanted. She paved the way for me and so many women and we owe her more than we are able to humanly payback.

I'm reflecting on the poem that I keep on my refrigerator, but don't practice in my actions. 

Our Deepest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear

is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness,

that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,

talented and fabulous?

Actually who are we not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small doesn't serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking

so that other people

won't feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine as children do.

We were born to make manifest

the glory of God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.

And when we let our own light shine,

we unconsciously give other people 

permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,

our presence automatically liberates others.

- Marianne Williamson

Enough worrying about this and that, wondering what if, and wishing for things that are within my reach. FEAR will no longer be a factor in my decision-making, in my relationships, in my career, in my life period! How can I say I trust God and have fear in my heart?

Thank you Ms. Horne. I WILL do you proud.

*Sweet P*